CRITICAL LIFE CONCEPTS (or 'CONSTRUCTS')
These are the constructs on which we build our lives.
They can be deeply unconscious so the client needs time to reach these deeper layers.
SELF ISSUES (HK7)
These are basic core world views that were set up early in life.
Only the highlighted or in bold concepts on Jimmy''s Self Issues list are CLCS.
These are:
Self Acceptance
Self Actualisation
Self Assurance
Self Attitude
Self Awareness
Self Centredness
Self Concept
Self Confidence
Self Control
Self Decisiveness
Self Empowerment
Self Expression
Self Freedom
Self Growth
Self Harmony
Self Esteem
Self Help
Self Knowledge
Self Love
Self Respect
Self Understanding
Self Worth
Guidelines
Think how ... affects/limits/enhances/obstructs etc your Self ...
ADULT NEEDS (HK7)
Guidelines
Think about how your adult needs are affected by this item: eg 'I need to feel so happy'
Think how this item stops you achieving your adult needs: eg 'People are so unreliable'
ASSUMPTIONS (HK7)
Guidelines
Think about this item as though it were totally true: eg 'The past is not relevant'
What beliefs do you have around this statement: eg 'Not everybody has problems'
AUTHORITATIVE
PRINCIPLES (HK7)
Guidelines
Think about your principles of ... eg morality
Think how ... allows you to feel superior. eg 'remaining with normality'
BLOCKS TO LIFE
(HK7)
Guidelines
Think how ... is a block to life.
Think about the blocks to life which stop you...
EXPRESSED PARALYSING
DISEMPOWERMENT (HK7)
Guidelines
Think how ... disempowers me.
Think how it is when you are (silently) disempowered when/by ...
FALLIBLE ATTITUDES
(HK7)
Guidelines
Think how the fallible attitude of ... affects you.
Think how ... is a fallible attitude.
Think how ... allows you to feel safe.
Think how ... blocks change.
Think how ... blocks create fallible attitudes
FROZEN PRINCIPLES
(HK7)
Guidelines
Think how ... has stopped your development in certain areas.
Think how the principle of ... affects your life.
Think how ... has allowed you to become stuck.
HIDDEN WISDOM
(HK7)
Guidelines
Think about the hidden wisdom in...
LIBERATING WOUNDS (HK7)
Guidelines
Think how ... has kept you from liberating wounds.
Think how you might liberate wounds through...
CONSCIOUS SHAME
(HK9)
People may be conscious of their shame but unaware of the stress it causes them.
Guidelines
Think how being...causes shame.
Think why...is shameful.
Think how...allows you to overcome shame.
How is it that...?
If I am... then...
EQUALITY SMOTHERED
EMPOWERMENT (HK9)
This is empowerment that has been smothered.
When there was some form of hierarchy then empowerment was ok, but equality came into the equation the stress was too great and empowerment was affected.
Eg. In the military someone has to be in control and give orders, and this feels safe and secure for some who would go to pieces given equal empowerment to perform this function.
If we are not equal we are not empowered, which leads to inaction.
People need to be empowered regardless of the circumstances.
Guidelines
Think how...smothers empowerment.
Think how smothered empowerment creates...
When/how is...empowering?
When do I..?
ILLUSIONS OF TRADITION (HK9)
Tradition can become a grand excuse not to change, develop or be different.
Those who are not comfortable departing from 'type'....'what will people think if I...?'
Guidelines
Think how...is an illusion of tradition.
Think how illusions of tradition cause me to.../keep me from...
Why do illusions of tradition keep me from/cause me to...
Why is...an illusion of tradtion?
If...then...
Think how...
INTUITIVE SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT (HK9)
This refers mostly to those things that interfere with our innate natural intuitive sense of empowerment, or those things that did this originally so we now seem not to have any.
A person saying 'I wish I had...' may need this correction.
Guidelines
Think how...blocks my intuitive sense of empowerment.
Think why my...empowerment relates to...
What about...affects my intuitive sense of empowerment?
How is it that...is an intuitive sense of empowerment?
Does...neutralise my disempowerment?
How does...allow my intuitive sense of empowerment?
ISOLATION RESOLUTION (HK9)
How does one resolve the stress of being or feeling isolated?
Guidelines
Think how...relieves/eliminates isolation.
Think how isolation causes me to.../keeps me from...
Think why I can't choose between...and...
If feeling...then how do I react?
OBSSESSIVE WORRY (HK9)
Original meaning of 'worry' in Old English was 'strangle'.
'Obsessive' means 'to an excessive degree'.
Obsessive worry can strangle a person on every level.
It is adverse fantasy.
Guidelines
Think how/why...requires worry.
Which changes cause...
Why is it that...causes/creates/allows...?
What changes because of...?
What allows.../allows me to be...?
How is obsessive worry...?
PRINCIPLES OF BEHAVIOUR (HK9)
This is similar to Principles of Authority (HK7) but specifically to do with behaviour.
The behaviours may 'feel good' but there is a price to pay.
Eg 'always caring for others' but this can be to your own detriment.
Guidelines
Think how...is a principle of behaviour.
Think how...affects my behaviour.
Think how my behaviour is an example of...
Think how my...behaviour is important to me.
Why is it that...is...?
When am I being...?
Because principles exist, which behaviours are...?
SEPARATION FROM (HK9)
Eg. from parents/family/spouse/job/society/place/any concept eg desires/empowerment...
Guidelines
Think how separation from...affects/causes/means/causes me to/...?...
Think how...helps me to separate from.../keeps me from separating from...
How is it that...
Why/How does separation from...allow...?
TRANSCENDENT BELIEF (HK9)
This is a belief that goes beyond understanding and which must not be questioned.
It must be accepted because it IS.
Guidelines
How does your belief affect/change/influence/.../you/ your behaviour?
Think how/why...is a transcendent belief.
How is it that...?
Why am I choosing...?